A few years ago, I wrote about being a last minute shopper. It turns out, I’m still that person. I literally wait until the day of an event or an occasion to run to the mall to get an outfit together. As you can guess, it’s very exhausting! I envy those who plan outfits weeks or days in advance! Read more
There once was a time when I would plan ahead. It didn’t matter what it was. I actually despised waiting until the last minute to accomplish something, especially shopping. Today, I’m no longer that girl. I’m now that “I’ll wait until last minute to find what I need” shopper and I don’t like it.
There’s nothing worse than feeling rushed or forced to buy clothing or shoes. I don’t know why I do it to myself. Maybe I think I’ll make quicker decisions? And because I’ve been so indecisive lately when it comes to fashion, this may make sense. I’m such a mess when I shop.
When I was preparing for my trip to Nashville a few weeks ago, I was shopping for something to wear and bought two tops, that I didn’t even end up wearing. In fact, I returned a dress I bought last minute (of course) for another trip and used that credit to get those tops. I’ll probably end up returning them too. Ugh!
I was also on the hunt for cute shoes and didn’t find any. Oh the drama! LOL! OK, so the obvious answer would be…”don’t wait until the last minute to shop.” Duh...I know that. I just don’t know why I can’t get in that state of mind.
Help ladies! Anyone out there know what I’m talking about? How do you deal with it and do you have any advice on how I can work on fixing this?
Update: On 12/22/11 I spoke with the manager on duty at this Macy’s location. I explained my experience. He was very kind, understanding, and sincerely apologized. We chatted a bit about it and he said he would definitely speak with the associate. I hope he does and she learns from the incident. There’s no room for size/shopping discrimination. I’ll let my $$$ speak for me from here on out.
I’ve worked many years in the retail world. I know what great customer service is and I can spot crappy customer service from a mile away. As a sales associate, I knew that a smile and hello went a long way. And I would never discriminate against a shopper looking to spend their money in my store.
It sucks, but shopping discrimination happens a lot and is never really spoken about. It’s uncalled for and I don’t understand it. Why would you want to stop someone from buying something in your store? And why would you try to make them feel like they don’t belong there?
Today, I was doing my Christmas shopping and I walked into Macy’s. I was looking to buy a coat for my mother-in-law. I came across a beautiful purple one with gold buttons, but I really wanted it in red. So, I asked the sales associate, who was standing behind the register, if they had one in that color.
She looked up at me and said, “Yes, but not in your size.”
Now, I will honestly tell you, I’m not a super sensitive person. But, this really irritated me. Not once did I say the coat was for me. I told her it was for my mother-in-law and I walked away. I didn’t buy anything there and I honestly don’t think I’ll ever shop at that location again.
I have no idea what that sales associate thinks about women who are my size. And maybe she didn’t “mean it that way.” I couldn’t tell you what ran through her mind as those words were spoken.
I will tell you I’ve been shopping at Macy’s for years and never once experienced anything like this. But, I have heard stories from women who have experienced it at other retailers. I just never thought it would happen to me.
In case you’re wondering, I decided to address Macy’s here for one reason only. I want them and other retailers to know that words like these can be hurtful. Whether it’s about size, race, age, or physical appearance-discrimination is discrimination. I don’t know about you, but I’m not going to spend my hard earned money in places that treat me like this.
I’m curious to know if any of you have experienced anything like this. What was your reaction?
Oh yeah that’s me posing in my awesome Curvy Divas Rock tee at the recent Kurvee event. And yeah I think I’m sexy…LOL. Ok, I was just being silly and had to take the photo opportunity. While I was at Kurvee, I realized something. I’ve become a really indecisive shopper lately. I didn’t know what to buy. I guess that’s a lot better than being an impulse shopper, right?
What really confirmed it for me was a shopping trip I took with my mom last week. She wanted to buy me something for my birthday and I could not make up my mind on what I wanted. It was kind of frustrating. I actually waited until we went to the very last store to get something. FYI, I ended up with a pair of gladiator sandals and jewelery from Avenue.
I don’t know what’s going on, but now that I think about it, it’s been a lot easier on my wallet. But, when I do buy something, I just end up returning it because I bought it last minute. Grrr…
Has this ever happened to any of you? I consider myself a shopper and I need to fix it (LOL).
With the hubby being out of town, I had the chance to do something I haven’t done in a very long time. I had shopping “me” time. Not just regular old shopping time, but time well spent.
I spent hours just walking around the mall. Taking in fashion and a few bargains. I wasn’t in a rush, I didn’t have to be anywhere. I just took my time. It was awesome. I highly recommend it.
We all get our inspiration, one way or another. This is how I get inspired. I almost bought this amazing Rachel Roy dress from Macy’s, but I didn’t want it to be an impulse buy. Now, I’m sitting here going back and forth to the web site wishing I had bought it. Why does that always happen?
And because of L.A.’s cloudy and chilly weather I wore the most comfy outfit I could put together:
You’re in the shoe department and you see a pair that screams your name. What do you do? Do you run and hide? Or do you gravitate toward them like you’re being pulled in by their imaginary forces? Does your brain start calculating if you can afford them?
This is what I deal with every time I see a pair of shoes I want. About 90% of the time I’ll end up buying them. But, the minute I come home I’m dreading my husband’s favorite shoe catchphrase…”Why do you need so many shoes?”
Grrrrr…that annoys me.
Of course I can think of a lot of reasons why I need more shoes. I tend to go with…”Babe, I don’t have a basic black pump! The ones I have are so old and uncomfortable!” I really do think I come up with the best answers, but he just shakes his head and walks away.
Doesn’t he understand the need to have pretty shoes on my feet? Why don’t some people realize that styles and trends change? A girl needs options. And if they are on sale and they’re cute, that’s a double bonus! I can’t pass them up.
Hopefully one day he’ll understand why I love shoes. Until then, let the shoe shopping continue…
Don’t you hate having to justify things you’ve purchased? I can’t help it that this pair of shoes (below) just had to be mine! They were literally saying my name as I walked past them. OK, maybe not, but once I picked them up I couldn’t put them down.
What you’re reading now is what I told my husband as I plead my case on why I had to buy these shoes. Don’t worry, it worked out in my favor. I brought out the whole “Do you know how much you spend on your video games?” That always works when I try and reverse the guilt.
There should be no need to justify such beautiful pink peep-toe sling back platform pumps from Guess. If I really want to dig deep down inside and get all therapist on you; I could say I probably feel this way due to guilt. Guilt from not being employed full time? Whatever it is, I don’t like doing it.
From now on, if I like something I buy. At a reasonable price of course and there’s no more excuses. That’s it. The end. Finito.
With only three days left until New Year’s Eve, I’ve been on the hunt for something to wear. I’ve purchased and returned like a mad woman. I’ve had a dress for a while that I was going to wear, but I tried it on the other night and it just didn’t look right. So, I headed out Sunday looking for an outfit. Isn’t that the story of my shopping life? I’m a last minute shopper.
Is being a last minute shopper smart? Yes and no.
Yes, because you’re forced to find something. No, because your choices are limited and you’re forced to find something. Now, try last minute shopping at malls that aren’t very curve-friendly and already ransacked. Over the last few days I’ve been looking over barely there racks. And when I did see something I like, they didn’t have it in my size. Ohhhhh…the drama.
But, low-and-behold I walk into Forever 21 today. It was the last store, before I gave up for the day. I’ve always been a fan of them, I just don’t know why I waited so long to look there! Of course, I fall for the first dress I see; the One Shoulder Glam Dress (below).
It sparkles more in person, I can’t wait to wear it! Now, I just have to find accessories for it. The shopping is never done!! I am thinking about wearing black opaque tights and black booties. Or should I go with black sequin pumps?
I am a true lover of shopping. Not just spending money, although that’s fun too. But, I am completely happy “just looking” in a mall filled to the brim with fashion, beauty products, shoes, and accessories. Even without buying a thing. I’m not talking about window shopping. I need to actually feel the merchandise and check out its quality. And not just plus size stores either; I make my way into any retail space. Until a few weeks ago.
I was at a Los Angeles area shopping mall and was stopped dead in my tracks before I even stepped foot into this high end boutique. It’s like I just froze. I couldn’t walk in.
Maybe it was the sales associates who eyed me up and down as I peered into the store. I know I haven’t felt this way since I was a teen. I was visiting my uncle who worked at Barneys New York in Beverly Hills. There was this sense of knowing that you just don’t belong in there. I have always prided myself of being a confident curvy woman. But, how could I be intimidated? What was I worried about? Not being able to afford anything in there or just the fact that I don’t fit into their clothes?
Then I started to think. Maybe I’m just worried about being judged by those in the store. Whether it was the discriminating sales associates or the platinum credit card carrying customer, no one wants to be judged. But, after all these years of curvy shopping…why now? Am I the only one who has felt this way?
I haven’t been back since, but I know that the only way to get over it is to just walk in and act like I own the place. I’m not going to let this “shopping while fat” get to me. I have as much right as anyone else to be in that store. Maybe my confidence did take a little dip that day, for whatever reason. But, I know in my heart that I can’t I let someone elses prejudices stop me from being who I am.
Remember to “Stay curvaliscious, confident, and courageous.”
FYI: I’m wearing the Evolution by JMS™ Smocked Chain Top ($13.99). Courtesy of Just My Size.