I’m having a major self-realization moment right now. It’s like I can feel my life shifting around, if that makes sense. Yes, it’s because I’m getting older and hopefully wiser. All I want, more than anything, is to live a kinder, balanced, and happier life. It sounds a lot easier than it has been. For the past few months I have been struggling with my inner self. It has nothing to do with welcoming in the new year either. In 2015, I made some changes here and what kind of content I would be sharing with all of you. You may have…
When I look back on this past year, I can’t help but really reflect on my personal growth. Where have I been as a person? What have I learned? How will I use that to better my life? Turns out, 2015 has been a year unlike any other. I’ve learned a few things and started a journey or two. And like the blogger I am, I decided to share with you on this blog—through a few personal posts. I went through my blog archives and pulled out seven posts that stood out to me. I can remember what was going on…
The internet is a funny place. Known for it’s vast resources, it’s also home to the insane world of social media and the notorious “hashtag.” The hashtag has redefined how you want to be viewed, classified, and sorted on social media sites like Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and Tumblr (to name a few). Today, I was on Instagram and I clicked on #plussize. One that’s probably been around since the beginning of plus size hashtagging (in my opinion). We can go back and forth (forever) about the term and whether you like it, use it, associate with it, disagree with it, hate it, love it, and/or embrace it. I don’t have time for that today.
That moment you’re on a roller coaster and you’re about to hit a frightening loop. That ache in the pit of your stomach is back – but this time it rushes up through your heart. It feels like it grasps at your throat. Causing you to cry out in pain with a voice you’ve never heard before. Tears explode through you. You hyperventilate.
And in that moment…you just feel helpless.
No, this is not a deja vu. Yes, I’ve written a few times about finding and expressing your personal style. I’ve shared my own tips and even some from my blogger amigas. And no matter what, I always stress the point of wearing what you want and what you love. But, you should also know that how you dress and what you wear does not define who you are as a person. No matter how many times someone feels the need to remind you.
We live in a world where people want to be anyone but themselves. Constantly putting themselves down, copying others, and not being true to who they really are. It makes me sad when I see a woman desperately trying to change who she is in order to fit into what society thinks is “beautiful.” I get it. It’s hard. We want to be accepted. And it doesn’t help that we are bombarded with messages that tell us what we should look like and how we should dress. Believe me, I work really hard to not fall into the trap myself. But, I’m only human. Sometimes, I need to remind myself to just be me.