Of all the things I love to do in this world, sweating is not one of them. Especially stress sweating, which smells worse! I know why our bodies do it, but that doesn’t make it any cuter. In fact, when Secret reached out to me for this sponsored post (with a giveaway), I knew I had to jump right in, say yes, and share my tips on how to fight stress sweat! Read more
Dear 15-year-old Monique,
I’m going to make this short and to the point.
Stop it! Stop it right now! Stop hating your body. Stop hating your hair. Stop envying the “popular” girls. And please stop wishing you weren’t you. Read more
Last week I wrote a post titled “I Think it’s Time for a Personal Beauty Intervention.” I wrote about the struggles we go through when it comes to personal beauty and how we’re always criticizing ourselves. I made a point to emphasize how our level of self-esteem is contagious. Sometimes we don’t realize how that affects others around us. Read more
October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month ladies! And although it’s honored this month, awareness should last a lifetime. Unfortunately, my aunt lost her battle to this horrible disease when I was 19-years-old. She was the most vibrant, loving, and beautiful person, inside and out. I remember her always making us laugh and she was definitely a feisty woman! Read more
Aging sucks. We’re all trying to avoid it. No one wants wrinkles or super droopy sagging body parts. Some of us will go to amazing lengths to stop the aging process, no matter how silly we look. Lifts here…injections there…it really is an uphill battle. Read more
Our bodies and sexual pleasure are nothing to be ashamed of…right? I mean…we’re only human and as long as we’re taking care and protecting ourselves, then sex shouldn’t be a taboo topic. It took me some time to think about writing this. I’m not a prude by any means, but growing up I didn’t really see or hear the media discuss sex as openly as it is now. And if you follow me via the Curves and Chaos Facebook page, then you know I actually asked you all if I should even host this giveaway. Read more
As a plus size blogger, there are a many things I hear from readers. One of the things that irritates me the most is when I’m being told that I support obesity because I write about plus size fashion. Now, let’s get one thing straight, that is the most idiotic thing someone can say to me. I support dressing the body you have now…regardless of shape or size. No matter what you look like, you still need to wear clothes! Read more
I’m a grown woman. One who can make decisions on what I like, don’t like, don’t want to buy, don’t want to buy into, and who I want to be. As a teenager, that was a whole other different story. I was just trying to figure out who I was, where I belonged, and who I wanted to be. I was easily influenced and often mislead by what would make me “popular” or liked by others.
Have you ever heard the saying that the wrinkles or the lines on your face tell a story? Whether around your eyes, on your forehead, or on the corners of your smile they’ll be there as we age. Could it be from smiling? Frowning? Worrying? Celebrating? Will you remember what was happening in your life during those moments?
I look back and view my stretch marks in the same way.
As a pre-teen, I noticed my first stretch mark. It laid on the lower part of my back and I couldn’t stop looking at it. My mom said it was because I was growing. This made sense, I was a lot taller than a lot of my friends. And it was during this time I felt awkward and a little clumsy. Boys didn’t really look at me. And I’ll always remember who my first crush was.
As I continued to grow, so did the stretch marks. This time they were around my hip area. As a teenager, this pretty much stopped me from wearing swimsuits. I was very insecure, even though I was a mere 125lbs and 5’6. I don’t even think I knew what the word “confident” meant at this age. I did know I didn’t want to look like I did. I envied the pretty girls with the boyfriends.
In my 20’s, I noticed them in my waist area. I would lose weight, gain weight, lose weight, and gain weight. And would often beat myself up when I gained a few pounds. I was in the military and I was still trying to figure out who I was. I found myself trying very hard to fit their standards. During this time, I met my amazing hubby.
Today, I have stretch marks in areas I didn’t know we could get them. I’m not even going to go “there.” But, I will tell you I know when they first appeared and what was going on in my life at that time. I don’t hate them, in fact I embrace them. They remind me of the roads I’ve traveled. I’m thankful they will never go away. They tell me the story of my life.
What do your stretch marks tell you?
Hey my loves! I’m back from my conference and I can’t wait to share this with you. This week is National Eating Disorders Awareness Week (NEDA). You know I can’t stress how important positive body image and self-acceptance is. I found out today, that 24 million Americans are affected by eating disorders. This includes Anorexia, Bulimia, and Binge Eating Disorder. This breaks my heart. During this week, I’m participating in spreading awareness. As part of this, you’ll see me tweet some startling facts, like today. Read more
Editor’s Note: All information in this post is from The Susan G. Komen for the Cure web site. I am not a doctor, I am only passing on information from a credible site. Please seek a medical professional if you have any questions or concerns.
According to the Susan G. Komen for the Cure web site, Breast cancer is a type of cancer where cells in the breast divide and grow without normal control. Between 50 and 75 percent of breast cancers begin in the ducts, 10 to 15 percent begin in the lobules and a few begin in other breast tissues.
Tumors in the breast tend to grow slowly. By the time a lump is large enough to feel, it may have been growing for as long as 10 years. However, some tumors are aggressive and grow much more rapidly.
It is important to understand the difference between invasive breast cancer and non-invasive breast cancer, called ductal carcinoma in situ (kar-sin-O-ma in SY-too). Click here to find out more.
Breast self-exam (BSE) is not recommended as a screening tool for breast cancer. However, Susan G. Komen for the Cure® recommends that you become familiar with the way your breasts normally look and feel. Knowing what is normal for you may help you see or feel changes in your breast.
If you notice any of the warning signs of breast cancer listed below, see your health care provider.
- Lump, hard knot or thickening inside the breast or underarm area
- Swelling, warmth, redness or darkening of the breast
- Change in the size or shape of the breast
- Dimpling or puckering of the skin
- Itchy, scaly sore or rash on the nipple
- Pulling in of your nipple or other parts of the breast
- Nipple discharge that starts suddenly
- New pain in one spot that doesn’t go away
If you feel a lump in your breast, do not panic. Most lumps are not breast cancer, but something less serious, like a benign breast condition (more on benign breast conditions).
Some lumps will go away on their own. Often, they are related to your menstrual period and will go away by the end of your cycle. However, it is best to see your health care provider just to be sure.
Please remember this post is not to scare you, but make you more aware of this disease. Let’s be vigilant and more aware of our health. Early detection and screening is key!!
What do you know about size acceptance? This is a topic, not only in the plus community, that pretty much wreaks havoc everywhere. Regardless, of how small, big, tall, or short you are-we should learn to love ourselves and others around us. Read more