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What I’ve Learned in 2013

I can’t believe 2013 is almost over! The year has flown by so quickly, that it seems like a blur. I know that sounds so cliche, but it does! A lot of amazing things have happened in the past year. I couldn’t be more thankful, blessed, and honored to do what I love. Sharing here with you all has been an amazing experience. 

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I love this blog and all the opportunities that have come with it. There have been a lot of ups and downs. The ups included hanging with my beautiful family and friends, working with brands who appreciate me, making new friends, and doing a lot of traveling. The downs…well…we’ll just leave it at the fact that there have been some bad moments that I think have made me a better person.

No matter where 2014 leads me, I can thank 2013 for the lessons that I’ve learned along the way. 

Be True to Who You Are

No matter what people want to say or think about you, just be yourself and never compromise. And believe me, people have a lot to say. But, I don’t care anymore. This is my space, not theirs. I know I put myself out there with this blog. I want you to know that I am the same person who types here and lives beyond the keyboard. I have to be who I was meant to be. You should all know by now that I am a real person who just happens to have a passion for sharing. I will always remain true to who I am. What you see is what you get. I make no apologies for being the person I am. As far as I’m concerned, there’s only one person who can judge me.

Leave the Drama Behind

Unfortunately, just as any industry, there will be drama. Just because I sit behind a computer doesn’t mean a thing.  I’ve come across jealousy, competition, hate, and a hundred other negative and unhealthy things in this “community.” So, I’ve learned to ignore it and move on. I’m a grown woman who doesn’t have time to deal with the drama. I’ve welcomed in positive people, love, and light in 2013. And I plan to take them with me into the new year. Who’s coming with me?

Stop the Self-Hate

There’s nothing worse than a person who doesn’t wholeheartedly understand the beauty they hold—inside and out. I was one of those people. I’m not going to lie, it’s still a battle. But today, more than ever—I love and appreciate the person I am and the body I’m in. And just because the media and the fashion industry don’t honor a body like mine (or yours), doesn’t mean a damn thing. I have to live in this body every day of my life. I will not go another day hating myself. It’s too exhausting. I don’t know about you, but I can use the energy for something else more productive…like shopping!

Live in the Moment 

As a person living with anxiety, this has been one of the hardest lessons I’ve learned in 2013. OK…I will admit…I haven’t fully adopted this. BUT I am learning. And I can thank  my very good friends (you know who you are), for helping me. Even if you didn’t realize you were. By living in the moment, I’ve experienced life in a different way. I’ve tried foods I would have never eaten in a million years (like crickets!) and I’ve been places I would have never seen without your help. These may seem like small steps to you, but for someone like me it’s leaps and bounds. Yes…crickets!

2013 has been an amazing year. I’ve lived, laughed, cried, doubted myself and loved. And I thank you for being there with me every step of the way. I know my blog isn’t perfect and I’m glad it isn’t. Because it’s a reflection of who I am.  I have flaws and I wouldn’t want it any other way. Thank you for joining me on this imperfect voyage of 2013. Let’s welcome in the new year with an open heart and open mind.

xoxo

  • Candy Olivares

    Wishing you all the best in 2014 Monique!! I want to chat with you soon!! xo

    • CURVESandCHAOS

      Same to you Candy!!! Thank you!